Weddings Unveiled...the life of a wedding planner2008-07-06T04:56:55ZEmilie DuncanCopyright 2008, Emilie DuncanSPHPBLOG4th of July leftovers
I see a lot of brides and grooms leave their receptions to a sparkler send off. I mean after all, it's pretty, it looks great in person AND in pictures and it's cheap!
Right now is a great time to get sparklers - lots left over after the holiday at various stores. The average sparkler burns for 30 to 45 seconds - give your guests more than one and that is plenty of time for you to get from the door of the reception to the car with them still burning.
They do sell special "wedding sparklers" that are nearly 2 feet long and burn for over 2 minutes. I don't recommend them to be honest. Why? Go watch the clock for 2 minutes...are you back? Two minutes is a pretty long time, huh? Now try that while you hold a stick of fire. A little bit of overkill, in my opinion.
Stick with the regular sparklers and go stock up now - they don't expire so no matter when your wedding is, if you need them, now is the time to buy them!]]>http://www.emilieduncan.com/pblog/index.php?entry=entry080705-1826102008-07-06T00:00:00Z2008-07-06T00:00:00ZCool Find: Bed Bath and Beyond What does this have to do with weddings?
Simple, all those items would be perfect for a wedding day emergency kit! Now, if you have a planner, she or he will almost certainly have a VERY well stocked emergency kit with things that you would never think to consider - my checklist for restocking mine is almost 4 pages long and people like to tease me about it but when I can save the day by pulling out exactly what they need, the teasing stops quite quickly!
If you are making your own, I would suggest including: a brush, hairspray, hairpins, safety pins of all sizes, Shout wipes, mints, dental floss, clear nail polish, Tylenol, Band-aids, feminine products needle and thread to match the bridesmaid dresses plus white and black.
Another great site to visit for travel and mini sized items is minimus.biz.
Hopefully, nothing comes up on the wedding day but if it does - you can be prepared! (Can you tell I was a Brownie?)]]>http://www.emilieduncan.com/pblog/index.php?entry=entry080701-0622342008-07-01T00:00:00Z2008-07-01T00:00:00ZMixing business with baby...
Yes, that is Ellie in her very own Emilie Duncan Event Planning onesie. Who needs billboards when you have baby!
Thanks to Alison from Grogan Studios for capturing Ellie at nine months.]]>http://www.emilieduncan.com/pblog/index.php?entry=entry080627-1418182008-06-27T00:00:00Z2008-06-27T00:00:00ZFavorite Gifts for Guys 2008 So, I give you Emilie Duncan Event Planning's Favorite Gifts for Guys 2008!
If your guys are wearing tuxes or suits, they will have on cuff links - give them something to wear besides the ones in the little bag they get from the rental place! There are tons of different styles out there!
Monogrammed:
Sports Teams:
If you have a HUGE budget for gifts and want to really splash out, you could give them cuff links made from the seats of their favorite ballpark:
Now, bear in mind, this idea really works best if your groomsmen wear cuff links more than at the occasional wedding - otherwise, they would probably appreciate the flask with Jaeger a lot more.
Meat + Fire = Food Another option I like is BBQ tools. We all know that guy who spends every cookout manning the grill - even at your house! Why not give him some personalized grill tools:
What about a brander of his very own:
You could also do a gift certificate to Omaha Steaks (just make sure he schedules the cookout after you get back from the honeymoon)
Shave and a Haircut The girls are probably going to the spa to be pampered before the wedding, why not the guys too? The Modern Male Spa in Dublin offers hot towel shaves, massages, facials, MANicures and hair cuts. Guys deserve a little pampering too!
It's All Rock and Roll to Me! iPod shuffles loaded with their favorite tunes (and some of yours that they haven't heard) would make a great gift for the music lover in the bridal party.
What about tickets to see their favorite band the next time they are in town?
So, there you have it. A few ideas for groomsmen gifts that don't involve pocket watches or knives. One last thing - nothing in the rule book says every groomsman has to get the same thing. Do you give everyone you know the same thing for Christmas? Probably not, so why should your wedding be a different story? ]]>http://www.emilieduncan.com/pblog/index.php?entry=entry080625-1411572008-06-25T00:00:00Z2008-06-25T00:00:00ZLast Minute Tips: U to ZU is for Under Pinnings You should already know what you are wearing under the gown as you need that for the final fittings. Make sure to put everything aside and together in the bag you have with you on the wedding day - that means that bra, bustier or "chicken cutlets", the stockings and the undies themselves. This is especially important if you are getting dressed someplace other than home. That last thing you want to worry about is finding someone to go get your bra from the hotel room!
V is for Veil Make sure your veil is hanging up so the wrinkles will fall out - in a pinch, take a nice relaxing shower or steam bath with the veil in the bathroom, any wrinkles should steam right out. Oh, and keep cats away from the veil - for some reason they love that material and will either sleep on it or shred it to bits!
W is for Weather Take weather.com off your bookmark list. Stop obsessively watching the Today Show, the 6 o'clock and the 11 o'clock news for the forecast - the weather is something you can't control and that is why you have a Plan B - so stop stressing out about it. (To explain the picture - if you look very closely at the windows you can see the torrential downpour that moved Jennifer and Craig's wedding indoors - can't control the weather, you just have to roll with it!)
X is for eXercise Keep your workouts light the week of your wedding - you don't want to hurt yourself while lifting weights. Exercising is a great stress reliever but it can be hard to walk down the aisle with a sprained ankle and even harder to dance all night with a pulled muscle!
Y is for Yes! Even if your mind goes blank and you can't form words, it is a safe bet that the answer to the questions being asked is either Yes or I Do or I Will. If all else fails, just nod, smile and keep looking in your fiance's eyes.
Z is for Zzzzz Get as much sleep as you can the week before the wedding! This especially goes for the night before the wedding! As much as you might want to stay out and visit with all your friends and family at the rehearsal dinner, remember you will have plenty of time to do that the next day at your wedding. Set a curfew for yourself and assign someone to make sure you get to bed - that way you won't be worried about bags under your eyes the next day or a nasty hangover either and you can have as much energy as Megan did on her wedding day!]]>http://www.emilieduncan.com/pblog/index.php?entry=entry080620-1200002008-06-20T00:00:00Z2008-06-20T00:00:00ZLast Minute Tips: P to TP is for Phone TURN OFF YOUR CELL PHONE and assign someone to take all those last minute phone calls. The last thing you should be doing while trying to relax is give directions to your cousin from Pittsburgh to the wedding ceremony. Appoint someone else to take those phone calls, change your outgoing message to include their name and number and put down the cell phone. Now back away very slowly and find a glass of champagne!
Q is for Questions In the weeks before the wedding, keep a small notebook with you at all times to jot down any questions that you think of for your vendors. That way everything is in one spot for the final walk throughs and wedding day details. Another option is to use my favorite service jott.com - sign up and enter your email address, when you have something you want to remember, just call the number and it will transcribe your voice mail into email and send it to you (or anyone else you have set up). Great for when you are driving and remember you need to call uncle Charlie and ask him to do the blessing!
R is for Rings Have your engagement ring polished - either professionally or in a glass of club soda overnight. You can also use Alka Seltzer or denture tablets. Please note, you should only do this with hard stones, never soft stones like pearls, jade or opal.
S is for Shoes Break in your shoes before the wedding - if you need to stretch them out, wear them around the house with a pair of heavy socks on. Wear them to get the mail and scuff the bottoms on concrete so they aren't slippery. Even if they fit perfectly, wearing them around the house will give you an idea if you might want to add some cushy foot petals for comfort. You are going to be on your feet a lot on your wedding day, never hurts to give yourself a head start!
T is for Thank You Get all your thank you notes for gifts received before the wedding written and ready to mail prior to the big day. You will have a ton of thank you notes to write after the wedding, so why not knock a few of them out of the way before you leave on your honeymoon? You can either mail them out early (for those who aren't coming to the wedding) or wait until after the wedding (for those who are attending but sent the gift early) to mail them but it is so nice to go on your honeymoon with a clear conscience.
Check back tomorrow for the final Last Minute Tips: U to Z!]]>http://www.emilieduncan.com/pblog/index.php?entry=entry080619-1200002008-06-19T00:00:00Z2008-06-19T00:00:00ZLast Minute Tips: K to OK is for Kiss Practice the kiss - yes, I am serious! First, it gives you an excuse to make out with your soon to be spouse (not that you should need one) and second, it gets you both on the same page as far as how far you plan to take the kiss. You don't want to have different ideas of what is appropriate on the wedding day - after all, your Great Aunt Tessy will be there!
L is for Linens When you do your final walk through of the reception site, do a final check that you have enough linens for every table that you would like covered. For instance, the cake table, guest book table, gift and escort card tables, high top tables for the cocktail hour. If you are having food stations or tables that serve as the bars, venues will often use black skirting for these tables - if you want them to match the rest of your tables, request that a linen be placed on them instead. Doing the final count will help make sure everything thing is covered on the wedding day. (pun fully intended)
M is for Menus You probably know someone with some kind of food allergy - be it nuts, strawberries, shellfish, or wheat, they seem to be more common nowadays. Even if there are no allergies among your guests, you may have a vegetarian or someone who keeps Kosher or a pregnant guest who can't eat that bleu cheese in the salad! Having a menu at each place setting or displaying one at every table is a great way to make sure your guests know what is in each dish so they can avoid the foods they can't eat. If you are having food stations, small cards in front of each dish is also a wonderful touch. Even if you leave these until the last minute, you could do them with just a printer and some card stock so they are an easy last minute project.
N is for Nails Gets your nails done or do them yourself a few days before the wedding. Make sure to have extra polish to match in case you chip a nail before the wedding and some nail glue or super glue if you happen to have acrylics. Even if you don't do the traditional ring pictures, people will be looking at your rings all night long - make sure that your nails don't distract them from the bling!
O is for Organization Make lists of all the things you need to pack for the rehearsal night, the wedding day and your honeymoon night. Check things off as they go into each bag - as someone who wore her white wedding shoes to brunch the next morning because I forgot any other shoes, I know of what I speak! Checklists for people who are doing the set up is nice as well and really help get your vision across more clearly.
Check back tomorrow for Last Minute Tips: P to T]]>http://www.emilieduncan.com/pblog/index.php?entry=entry080618-1200002008-06-18T00:00:00Z2008-06-18T00:00:00ZLast Minute Tips: F to JF is for Facial If you have never had a facial, the week of your wedding is NOT the time to get one - they can irritate your skin and sometimes cause breakouts. The same goes for a massage if you bruise easily! Even if you are an old pro at the facials and really want to get one, make sure to schedule it early in the week. Also, take it easy on the new products - just because a skin cream costs $100 an ounce doesn't make it perfect for your skin. Stick with the things that you know work and don't irritate your lovely complexion.
G is for Gown Once your dress is back from being pressed, try to get it out of the giant white bag as soon as you can. Hang it up so it is well off the ground - if you can hang it from a light fixture that is best. If that won't work, hang it from the top of a closet door with the giant white bag between the dress and the door (you want to protect the dress as much as you can). Spread a white sheet on the floor and spread out the train so keep it from wrinkling. Then keep the pets and the groom out of the room!
H is for Handkerchief Even if you don't normally cry or aren't emotional, the emotions and feelings you will experience on your wedding day may take you by surprise. Have a REAL hanky on hand rather than tissues to dry those tears or get rid of that shine (wedding gowns can be HOT!). A hanky won't leave fuzz on your face like a paper tissue will leaving you with less touch up as the night goes on. Give the hanky to the groom and he can hand it to you if you need it - after all, tuxes have pockets and most bridal gowns don't!
I is for Infants Okay, I had to cheat a little on this one so it isn't just infants but kids of all ages - if you have kids attending your wedding or some little ones in the bridal party, check with the parents to see if they need high chairs. Most venues will have high chairs or infant slings available if you ask ahead of time but you have to ask! If the venue needs to rent them, they need notice to do that and 20 minutes into cocktail hour is not enough time! It is just another thing you can do as a host/hostess to make your guests feel special and welcome - thinking ahead for the parents in the group goes a long way!
J is for Jewelry Take all your jewelry with you to your final fitting and put everything on together - this is a nice final check to make sure you like the complete look. Just because you love a necklace doesn't necessarily mean that it will look right with you neckline of your gown and just because you love those earrings doesn't mean that they won't be too much with your veil.
Check back tomorrow for Last Minute Tips: K to O]]>http://www.emilieduncan.com/pblog/index.php?entry=entry080617-1200002008-06-17T00:00:00Z2008-06-17T00:00:00ZLast Minute Tips: A to EA is for Alphabetize Take a little time once your escort cards are finished and put them in alphabetical order. This will save a lot of time for your coordinator on the day of the wedding - plus if you keep your final list of guests attending nearby, you can do a final check to make sure no one has been missed.
B is for Bouquet Where you hold your bouquet is actually really important for pictures. The tendency when you get nervous is for the bouquet to get higher and higher towards your chin - this hides your gorgeous dress and sometimes your beautiful face! We certainly don't want that! Keep your shoulders back and down and try to rest your forearms on your hips - if you do this your bouquet should be pretty much right in front of your belly button which is perfect for pictures. It also gives you a little room in case the nerves get the better of you and it starts to migrate north on that looooong walk up the aisle!
C is for Ceremony Say your entire ceremony out loud just as it will be done on the wedding day and time it - especially if you are getting married at the same location as your reception. This is a great reality check against your timeline - you don't want your caterer to think that your ceremony is 30 minutes when it really only runs 10 minutes. 200 thirsty guests converging on a bar that isn't ready is NOT a good thing!
D is for Directions Make sure that you limo company has addresses for all the stops you plan to make - they might not know how to get to that gorgeous little known park downtown that you want pictures at so give them the address ahead of time. Also, for those out of town guests, slip directions for every event into your out of town guest bags at the hotels. Or set up an event at dialdirections.com and give that number to your guests. You might want to drive the route from your ceremony to the reception to make sure there aren't any roadblocks or detours that you need to take into account.
E is for Emotions The emotions surrounding a wedding can take even the most even keeled bride and groom by surprise. I always say that weddings bring out the best and the worst in the people you least expect and sometimes people lose their minds a little. If it all gets to be too much before the wedding, there is nothing wrong with turning off the email, putting down the wedding binder and walking away for an afternoon - it will all be there when you get back.
Check back tomorrow for Last Minute Tips: F to J]]>http://www.emilieduncan.com/pblog/index.php?entry=entry080616-1200002008-06-16T00:00:00Z2008-06-16T00:00:00ZBookmark Worthy Vacation In its place, I am going to give you my best last minute tips - we are smack in the middle of wedding season here in Ohio so hopefully this mini-series will help get you ready for those weddings! And just because I think it is fun, every picture is from an Emilie Duncan Event Planning wedding! Enjoy!]]>http://www.emilieduncan.com/pblog/index.php?entry=entry080616-0838262008-06-16T00:00:00Z2008-06-16T00:00:00ZHappy Father's Day! Of course, my own Dad is the best Dad I could have ever asked for and I am still very much a Daddy's Girl!
This is my amazing husband Randy's first Father's Day to our beautiful baby girl, Ellie. He is an incredible Daddy and I am blessed that I get to be his partner in this adventure called parenthood.
Happy Father's Day to all the Dads out there! Hope your kidlets are good to you!]]>http://www.emilieduncan.com/pblog/index.php?entry=entry080615-0902182008-06-15T00:00:00Z2008-06-15T00:00:00ZBookmark Worthy: Sparkliatti
Some of the lovely ladies from SWS are readers of this blog and I am certainly a huge fan of theirs as well! There is something to be said for those southern weddings - take a peek at all the gorgeous details from the real weddings they feature and tell me it doesn't inspire you!
If you know me, you know I am a HUGE photography fan - it is a true hot button with me and I think one of the most important parts of the wedding. This blog is a wonderful collection of wedding photos and portraits from photographers who belong to the Foundation Workshop Forum. Tons of eye candy!
Another great embellishment site but this one also carries vintage. Yay!
Bookmark Under: Embellish]]>http://www.emilieduncan.com/pblog/index.php?entry=entry080610-0500002008-06-10T00:00:00Z2008-06-10T00:00:00ZMaggie + Ryan: 06.07.08The Story Maggie and Ryan lived in the same dorm in college and even had some friends in common but only knew OF each other. It wasn't until a few years after college at a friend's birthday party that the romance began.
Maggie and Ryan wanted an outdoor wedding with a big white tent for the reception and Franklin Park Conservatory's Garden Pavilion tent and patio fit the bill perfectly. Even though the sky was a bit gray and there was a threat of rain all day, the ceremony was held on the patio outside the tent as was the cocktail hour.
Ryan grew up in New Orleans and Maggie and Ryan really wanted to incorporate some of that spirit into the wedding. After the cocktail hour, the couple led their guests into the reception with a raucous second line march. Maggie and Ryan dancing their way into the tent, parasols in hand, with the guests waving hankies and dancing behind them all led by the Toll House Jazz Band. It was first for me and most of the vendors and it was SO MUCH FUN!
Rather than the usual round tables, we had 4 very long tables set for the 112 guests. The long family style tables really added an intimate feel to the large space. Each table was set with linens in shades of purple with white organza overlays. The tent was lit with hundreds of candles of all sizes and down the center of each table were tons of purple and lilac roses with larger arrangements every few seats. I must say the tent really was breathtaking. Maggie actually made me cry a little bit when she saw the tent for the first time because she was just SO excited and thrilled with how it turned out.
Some of the New Orleans contingent (including the Best Man) left during the reception to "get up to no good" and came back with a VERY well decorated car - balloons, paint, streamers strung from the bumper. It was a fantastic get away car although they all assured me this was very tame compared to the way they do it in New Orleans.
Maggie and Ryan left to a sparkler send off and the guests left with favors of homemade (family recipe) jams and preserves from the mothers of the bride and groom.
It was a wonderful wedding and I feel so blessed that I was a part of it. I will miss my daily emails with Maggie and Ryan now that the planning is over but since they are moving from DC to Cincinnati in the next month - hopefully I will be seeing them from time to time!
Even though I tell my brides to STOP looking at the weather 3 days before the wedding - this is still a great site to have on the bookmark list. Why WU over that other weather site? This site has EVERYTHING you could want to know on one page from forecasts, astronomy, air quality and more. Plus, the hourly forecast feature goes out 6 days rather than 3. If you are going to look, you might as well look here!
Bookmark Under: Know/Stalk
Edited to Add: The creator of the site, Adam, left a few more cool things to check out on the site as well - just go to the comments below. :)]]>http://www.emilieduncan.com/pblog/index.php?entry=entry080609-0500002008-06-09T00:00:00Z2008-06-09T00:00:00ZBookmark Worthy: USPS
I know, I know - you are asking yourself why I am suggesting you bookmark the US Postal Service. Well, their website is actually rather useful! You can select and order stamps for your invitations and thank you notes. You can have your mail held for your honeymoon. You can even change your address if you are moving after the wedding. THAT is why I am suggesting you bookmark the USPS. :)
Most people go some place new on their honeymoons - if you are going somewhere new, how are you supposed to know what is fabulous and what isn't? Trip Advisor, of course! First hand knowledge from other travelers about just about every destination in the world.
